I was in
my shop and a friend stopped by with her 6 months old baby. She said her
and her partner thinking of trying for another baby and I became a bit worried
for them and started advising against trying so early. I told her to wait
longer until baby was at least a year or two, using some scientific evidence of
two year gap in order to recover her strength; I even mentioned to give as much
time as possible to her first child; but the worst thing was I just got my
friend back after she stopped breastfeeding and I am actually looking forward
to nights out in town and few glasses of Prosecco.
But then
after she left I felt really uncomfortable about my advice and thought about it
a lot. So this is a bit strange to write about such personal thing but it’s on
my mind and I will just go ahead and do it.
I have two happy and healthy
children and It is so important for me to say how blessed and privilege I feel
to be their mother. Our youngest is four
and it is no secret to say that we have thought and spoke about having
more but we kind of know that why try our luck when we so happy with two, and
there are so many women that can’t have one.
I am so quite simply terrified
of trying. For me trying after my first has meant so many months of
anxiety, loss and sadness and I think of all the things that might happen and
all the things that could go wrong on the road to a healthy pregnancy.
But then I am calmed thinking that there are millions of women getting
pregnant everyday and it may not take months and months of anxious
waiting.
Its becoming normal to have
smaller gap between children simply because we have children later and later in
our life’s, in my shop majority of first time pregnancies are over 34. “No
wonder” it’s only take’s us Forever to get our career on track and in many
cases to find the man with whom to have children.
So I suppose the answer is
complex and I still feel bad for advising my friend against it. If you worried
and thinking when is the good time, that is probably anytime and if “That Is
What’s On Your Mind” as soon as you find strength to deal with what ever
difficulties may or may not be ahead.
At last, I would like to mention
how happy I am to know that NHS IVF treatment will be extended to women up to
42 years of age. What a smart thing to do…..
